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Goodbye, Facebook.

So, over the last couple of days there have been a .. “series of unfortunate events” that has lead me to de-Facebook my life.  My reasons for this are numerous, and this has been a long time coming to be honest. The short TL,DR edition is that the downsides now far outweigh the upsides.  If you want to know the reasons, this (rather lengthy post) should sum it up.

1. Irreconcilable Philosophical Differences

There isn’t one specific policy decision that Facebook has done that pissed me off: it’s seemingly been ALL OF THEM in the past year or so.  The “real name” policy debacle.  Censorship issues,  and inconsistent application of their “Community Standards.”   The increasing tendrils of Facebook into things I don’t want them in.

And we haven’t even gotten to the invasive marketing thing.

We all know that Facebook isn’t alone in this category.  Google is as bad, if not worse.  But I still believe, in the end, Google uses the advertising as a vehicle to provide me better content: not just targeted ads, but relevant JIT search results (or even before I know I need it, which Google Now has an alarming capacity to deliver).   I feel less “exploited” by Google.  Whether that faith in “don’t be evil” is misplaced or not is certainly open for argument.  But I’m a lot less angry when Google missteps, for better or for worse.  The point is, I feel Google’s goal really is to deliver me the information I want when I want it.  Facebook’s goal is a lot more nebulous and, I think, nefarious.

2. Desire to “own” my words and to be a “grown-up.”

I’ve always been a proponent of “hosting it myself”, because only when you control the server that hosts your content (regardless of what that “content” is) can you really own it.  I’ve resisted using a lot of the photo-sharing services over the years for that exact reason.  I operate my own website, and now my own Diaspora server.

It’s not just an ownership thing, though.  Facebook has always felt like a junior-high school, with the petty drama and note-passing.  Facebook contains about 80% drivel and about 20% interesting content.  The signal-to-noise level is overwhelming.

I guess I’m finally growing up.

3. It’s not worth the emotional downsides

This is a big one too.  it’s partially related to that school-like setting I talk about above, but it’s deeper than that.  Studies are revealing something I’ve always suspected: social networks don’t necessarily increase our happiness and connectivity to others.  In fact, there’s strong evidence the exact opposite is true.

My life has had a lot of emotional ups and downs over the past few years.  At every turn downward I’ve had some (in the grand scheme of things) small irritant from Facebook get under my skin.  In every case the vector has been from somebody who only cursorily knows me.  I have a lot of true friends.. people who know me, understand my quirks, and most importantly give at least a portion of a shit about me.

Those who care about me, I feel, will continue to follow me wherever I go.  They followed me from LiveJournal, they’ll likely follow me towards Diaspora and this website.

 

MOVING FORWARD

So, what’s next?

Well, obviously, it’s time I dusted off this old website and actually use it again.  I should reinstall the federated login systems so people can comment without creating accounts.  There’s lots of other stuff I should do here.  And I feel that doing some of those things will allow me to hone some of my rusty sysadmin skills too, and give me projects I can work on.

And then there’s Diaspora.

For those who don’t know, Diaspora is a social networking alternative.  I won’t go into a long and involved tutorial on how Diaspora works here (that will be another post), but it’s likely the social networking I’m going to use in the future.  In brief, Diaspora is a meshed social networking service.. small communities run pods, which  talk to other pods to pass posts from individuals across the grid.  I’m running a pod myself.  If you are new to Diaspora and want to follow my posts, you can join  at https://diaspora.feedle.net.  If you join my Diaspora pod or another one, you can follow “feedle@diaspora.feedle.net” to get the Facebook-style short blurbs about what’s going on  in my life.  (There is an Android client as well..)  For IM, Google’s ever evolving chat system is a good choice.

And I’ll still tweet now and then.

But I’m going to slowly be disconnecting from Facebook.  I have already disabled the Facebook client on my phone, and uninstalled Facebook Messenger.  I likely will only post important stuff on Facebook, and they will be crossposts from Diaspora.

Thanks for listening to my rants, and hopefully we’ll see you out there.

3 Comments

  1. Brian Garrett wrote:

    Back in the day, before LiveJournal, Myspace, fire, the wheel, etc., I used to be on The WELL. I don’t know what they’ve morphed into now but the whole “you own your own words” was a paramount value of theirs and I suspect it still is. They used to do what Facebook originally set out to do better than FB ever has, and their users’ IQ probably averaged a good 30 points above what you’ll see on today’s social media. I felt smarter just being logged in. Anyway, you might check them out. If their user base is at all like what it was in the ’90s, you’d fit right in. (Based in Silicon Valley, so LOTS of people in the vanguard of IT.)

    Saturday, October 11, 2014 at 12:53 pm | Permalink
  2. Deb wrote:

    It feels like you are drawing a line in the sand with your friends as well. I know you’ve admitted to issues with depression in the past,and i’m hoping you’ll find sufficient timely social support when things are going poorly.
    I know those who really care will follow of course, but what about those on the fringe? I mean you and I are familiar acquaintances at best, would you follow back to my blogs? or even to my livejournal? (Have you? Both are still out there)

    Just make sure you are taking into consideration what is best for your long term health.

    Sunday, October 12, 2014 at 1:26 pm | Permalink
  3. Deb wrote:

    Hope all is well with you

    Thursday, January 15, 2015 at 8:57 am | Permalink

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